Alot of wise responses.
Being a single guy in a rock band isn't exactly what it's cracked up to be.
All the guys in my band are married or in committed relationships, except for me, now.
I've had a few close encounters, but never went anywhere. There was one chick who was obsessed with me at a show, and was pretty touchy feely, giving off clear signals that she wanted me to bang her drum, haha. I invited her back with the band to a party after the show but she declined, and said that her ride was leaving. But she still keeps in contact with me. Hmmmm......
Being visual is key, onstage. I like to be very visual, make eye contact with people and sing the words to them, banter and badger, flip and toss sticks and whip my hair and put my all into it. It does get you noticed.
My last relationship was spawned 4 years ago due to the fact that I was a drummer. I invited her to a show, and my playing won her over and we started dating. It's the talent, man. We drummers have that gift and that talent. All I know is that whatever douchebag she's dating nowadays ain't got shit on me, because I'm a drummer. And it takes alot more talent and more admirable to play drums or be a musician than any other ordinary thing. You can speak 5 languages and you come from a rich family? Guess what, I play drums in a successful band. Who's she gonna pick? Women gravitate towards musicians. As my dad told me when I was young..."If you're a musician, chicks will dig you." No joke, he told me that when I was young. And it's true. Chicks dig me because I'm a musician, but trying to hook up with em or nail em is another thing.
What I don't get is, I'm the only single guy in the band, but girls gravitate towards the rest of the guys in the band, who are married or taken most of the time. Hmmm, well, I'm yet to boink (had to use the proper term, haha) a chick after a show, but it will happen eventually. The only chick I was nailing after shows was my girlfriend for the past 4 years.